User: icarusancalion date: 2009-12-02 13:52 subject: Dating article security: Public mood swing thoughtful tags dating, home, wg

An interesting article about dating.

My favorite points --

Values vs Interests: Having the same values as your partner is truly a must. Its the glue that keeps you bonding, growing together and connected. Interests are different. For example if you VALUE a family, a belief in a higher being or power, or a fit and health conscious lifestyle your partner should equally believe these are significant in his/her own life. Interests like playing soccer, dance, rock climbing, fishing, fashion or shall I say YOGA, don’t determine compatibility. You don’t have to share every single interest with your partner to make it work.

So true. I've been noticing on online dating sites that people go on and on about interests.

Individuality within a Couple: WHO ARE YOU? Do you know what you desire? What are your dreams? Being an individual is probably one of the more difficult things to hang on to within a relationship. We can get lost in another’s own view and dreams. Staying true to our own desires and dreams is equally important. It makes us happier because we are living our desires and growing from that place. You can’t grow living to please another or gaining approval from another. You are then living another person’s life, and that eventually manifests into resentment, hurt and pain.

I confess, I relied a lot on WG's advice when we were together. He had a knack for seeing straight to the heart of the matter (which holds true regardless of how he's treating me right now). It's fuzzy now how much of that meant he was steering the boat.

Please STOP HIDING who you are! Be yourself, completely. From date one present your authentic self. If you don’t usually wear make up or dress a certain way, then don’t do it for the first date. If you don’t like sports than say so and don’t pretend to be the “sports chick or jock”. If you absolutely dislike smoking than don’t pretend to be ok with that habit in another if you really aren’t. What you are is what you are. Being proud of that is really the first lesson to learn before even attempting to find a date. Pretending to be someone you are not, is not only difficult to maintain but a lie you have to live. How fun is that?

This is so tempting. I'm such a no-makeup, misplaced my comb a week ago kind of gal. But I'm thinking of trying out a different look, playing with a new hairstyle, wearing more makeup than I have been in school. But that's for me though, so I think it's not a pretense.

Funny. I've never dated. Guys have always found me.

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User: pouncer date: 2009-12-01 22:06 subject: *sheep* security: Public tags fanfiction, meme

THE FANFICTION LOVE MEME

I was able to hold both tree pose and eagle at yoga tonight. \o/ Balancing is the most hard.

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User: otw_news (posted by zooey_glass04) date: 2009-12-01 23:13 subject: AD&T Weekly Meeting - 28 November 2009 security: Public

Welcome to our weekly update from the chair of ADT. All the news that's fit to print about the progress of the Archive of Our Own is below the cut. This post may also be found on the Archive of Our Own which is commentable by anyone with or without an AO3 account. Comments are disabled elsewhere as we'd like people to be able to share any discussion with each other.

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User: frogspace date: 2009-12-01 22:30 subject: Dieser Eintrag ist überhaupt gar nicht hier security: Public tags merlin, original slash, white collar

Ich habe 2046 ungelesene Mails in meiner Inbox, dieser Eintrag hier kann also gar nicht existieren, weil ich logischerweise gerade all meine E-Mails beantworte. *hust*

Wie alle anderen Merlin-Fans auf meiner Flist habe ich am Wochenende Squee-Laute und wildes Gekicher bis zum Umfallen von mir gegeben, weil dieser Bradley/Colin-Roadtrip und die Sache mit den Secrets & Magic es einfach wert waren (Wer nicht über den einen oder anderen Link gestolpert ist, hat vermutlich keine Merlin-Fans auf seiner Flist *g*). Picspam über Nacherzählung in Bildern bis zu Bradley/Colin-Vids mit langen Blicken und kitschiger Klaviermusik. ^_^ Ach ja, manchmal macht Fandom besonders viel Spaß. ♥

mamoru22s Bilder von diesem Merlin-was-auch-immer-Event verfolgen mich zusätzlich schon seit Tagen, weil mich bei dem Bild hier aus dem Nichts heraus der Gedanke angesprungen hat, dass Colin Morgan bei einer Neuverfilmung von Highlander einen guten Methos abgeben würde. /o\ Ich weiß auch nicht, wo solche Gedanken herkommen!¹

gealach_ros hat einen Merlin/Arthur & Bradley/Colin Advent Calendar 2009 erstellt und das erste Türchen ist seit heute offen. Wheee!² Bei der Gelegenheit habe ich auch gleich meine Merlin Rec List aktualisiert und festgestellt, dass sich derryere zwischenzeitlich als die Autorin dieser genialen Story geoutet hat, wegen der vor ein paar Tagen beim Meme alle in Begeisterungsstürme ausgebrochen sind. Noch besser ist natürlich, dass sie die Story gleich ins AO3 gepackt hat. Yay!

Nachdem diverse Leute auf meiner Flist schon die ganze Zeit immer über Dragon Age posten, konnte ich hiermit sogar was anfangen: Let's Fight About a Gay-Sex Videogame This Christmas Season. Dragon Age: Origins has taken the terribly awkward genre of videogame dialog and melded it with gay romance and, also gay sex scenes. Who, in these United States, could possibly object to foisting this content on teenaged boys? Heh, heh.

Ich brauche Zeit für die ganzen ungelesenen SGA- und SPN-Big-Bang-Sachen! Ernsthaft, gibt mir bitte jemand drei bis vier Wochen!

::versteckt sich wieder::
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¹ Neal Caffrey bei White Collar sieht übrigens so aus wie ein dunkelhaariger Terence Hill. Ich weiß, ich weiß! Ich kann doch auch nichts dafür!!! /o\
² (Apropos Adventskalender, wer deutschsprachigen original Slash liest, der kann sich auch an dem BoyxBoy-Adventskalender erfreuen. Die geschlossenen Türchen ruhig mal anklicken, denn die ganzen "Neugieralarm"-Schilder schon recht lustig sind. *g*)

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User: icarusancalion date: 2009-12-01 10:24 subject: Why did I trust him? security: Public mood swing angry and hurt tags wg

Maybe I'm wrong. Maybe I'll find my dresses in one of the boxes, buried under some books.

I should never have listened to WG.

I was supposed to go to Seattle September 9th. I had the tickets and it was all set. We were going to go through all our things together and split them up. Take things to Goodwill. I was going to help him move. I was going to take him to his oral surgery appointment. I was going to put together furniture for him in his new apartment. I was going to spend some time with Monte kitty to say goodbye.

He called me and asked me not to come. He'd send me my things.

Why did I trust him?

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User: icarusancalion date: 2009-12-01 09:13 subject: Fucking crossdressers. security: Public mood swing stunned tags wg

I just discovered that WG kept both of my stretch velvet cocktail dresses, the deep blue one and the black one.

That's just beyond the pale.

He went through my stuff and just decided what he wanted to keep. Regardless of whose it was.

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User: mirabile_dictu date: 2009-11-30 22:23 subject: Thirtieth day of writing security: Public

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Word count: 507. AND THAT'S IT. I mean, I'll keep writing, and I'll certainly keep hoping this turns into a story, but no more posting word counts. Still, I did it! I wrote a minimum of 100 words/day for an entire month. Mini-nanowrimo was a good idea; it really helped me push on this idea I've had forever. Of course, as I said, I still don't know if it will become an actual story, and even if it does, only three people will read it because it's all about Teyla with minimal John/Rodney. But it was a good month. Also: whew!

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User: asylum_promo (posted by advertisemyrp) date: 2009-11-30 20:05 subject: Mod Cooperative & Old School RP security: Public

( Mod Cooperative - a place where players and mods come together to help each other out! )


( Old School RP - a place to advertise games that follow old school rules of RP. )

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User: ficangel date: 2009-11-30 19:09 subject: AI Fic: All That Time, Silent Still (21/29) security: Public mood swing anxious tags all that time silent still

TITLE: All That Time, Silent Still
AUTHOR: Mari
RATING: NC-17
PAIRINGS: Mavid, Tiedam, miscellaneous hints of others both slash and het.
DISCLAIMER: I do not own this sandbox, and all of the sandbox games played within are entirely fictional.
SUMMARY: Civilizations have crashed before under the impact of one great catastrophe. Make it two, and what’s left behind is barely recognizable. Slavefic AU.
CONTAINS: Coercive themes by definition; sex, violence, language, and torture both onscreen and off. Contact me if you want or need to know more.

Part One
Part Two
Part Three
Part Four
Part Five
Part Six
Part Seven
Part Eight
Part Nine
Part Ten
Part Eleven
Part Twelve
Part Thirteen
Part Fourteen
Part Fifteen
Part Sixteen
Part Seventeen
Part Eighteen
Part Nineteen
Part Twenty

( David felt wrung-out and not in the mood to anything more than sleep. )

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User: otw_news (posted by francescacoppa) date: 2009-11-30 16:10 subject: Help Us (and the AO3) Grow! security: Public

Open Beta for the Archive of Our Own is entering its third week of booming growth, and we're all very excited by the positive, thoughtful, and constructive feedback we've been receiving from all of the new users. We've also been incredibly gratified by the groundswell of excited volunteers, eager to help us to make the Archive even better!

Happily, volunteer opportunities abound - particularly filling jobs in the infrastructure supporting the AO3. Organizing and communicating with our new volunteers is how our Volunteers & Recruiting Committee makes all our other work possible. Our Financial Committee makes sure the bills get paid, assuring a secure, stable home for all of that work. Both are vital to AO3 growth and sustainability.

If you're inspired by the AO3 project, and are moved to help us make it better, you may have just the sort of enthusiasm we can use! Volunteering in other capacities doesn't mean you can't also test code (banging on new features) or wrangle tags (helping to improve searchability) - many of us do both. Please take a look at the opportunities listed in our Willing to Serve post and help us to build stronger support for the AO3 by strengthening our organization. Send us a message to volunteer or to find out more!

As always, if you don't have the time or energy, but feel the impulse to be a part of what we're accomplishing, you can donate in support of our servers and our continued self-sufficiency - or just help spread the word to your friends and fannish communities!

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User: telesilla date: 2009-11-30 10:55 subject: *checks* security: Public

Yup, still sick.

I'm sleeping in the second bedroom because I'm coughing a lot and also because...well you know those stupid stereotypes about how all guys turn into babies when they're sick? Yeah, that, only I'm not a guy. I whine a lot and the sad thing is that I know I do it and that doesn't stop me from doing it. Also my sleep schedule is really messed up.

So that's the state of me.

Meant to say, this seems to be a garden variety cold and not teh hamtrax.

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User: pouncer date: 2009-11-30 10:35 subject: My phone's on vibrate for you security: Public mood swing grateful sound: why'd you have to break all my heart? couldn't you have saved a minor part? tags batdog and spiderpup, family, holiday, hypochondria, tech geekery, writing, yuletide

( thanksgiving. puppies. birthday. rib trouble. decorating. yuletide and writing. fashion. )

*I have an invite to Archive of Our Own, if anybody needs one. Most of my non-Atlantis stories are loaded over there, and I plan to get the SGA ones up soon. I'm not sure what to do about drabbles and ficlets, though. I have a bunch, and the thought of creating header information for all of them individually is daunting. Any suggestions on how to handle this dilemma?

*Winnie has a new habit that I’m trying to curtail: chomping on my laptop power cord and killing my computer as a result. I've ordered a couple of replacement cords, but the quick death makes me aware that I really do need a new laptop. Does anyone have any specific recommendations? My computer needs are mostly web, music, photo editing, a bit of video tinkering, and word processing (no gaming). Are integral DVD burners standard these days?

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User: amalthia date: 2009-11-29 21:19 subject: Hikaru No Go, Star Trek Reboot, Merlin, Supernatural, Stargate Atlantis, and Dark Shadows Recs security: Public tags recs:anime, recs:merlin, recs:miscfandoms, recs:sga, recs:spn, recs:startrek

Hikaru No Go

desynchronization by ontogenesis (Ogata/Sai) INSTANT REC!!! I could not stop reading once I started. I LOVED the character voices, the setup, and how everything came together. To find the story scroll down until you get to the big graphic of Sai and Hikaru.

Star Trek Reboot

On A Day Like This by oxymoronic (Kirk/McCoy) I liked the character voices and the plot. I had a hard time putting this story down!


Refractions by bigmamag (Kirk/Spock) This was fun to read. I loved seeing glimpses into other realities. Some where a bit heartbreaking.


For the Greater Good by meri_oddities (Kirk/McCoy Kirk/Spock Kirk/Uhura) I really liked the concept and the world building.


Love is Strange by garryowen (Kirk/Spock) INSTANT REC!!! I loved that the author took this concept and made it believable! I loved all the touching, the character voices, and the sex was hot.


Making a Living Out of Hope by casspeach (McCoy/Chekov) I really liked the plot, the character voices, and the way the story wraps up. Very well told.


Cowboys Lost At Sea by ayalesca (Kirk/McCoy) This was interesting, I liked the concept, character voices, and it was romantic.


Stargate Atlantis

Calling Down the Lightning by dreamwaffles (Sheppard/McKay) INSTANT REC!!! I had a lot of fun reading this story. I loved the concept, character voices, and the ending worked for me.


The Magical Number Seven (Plus or Minus Two) by general_jinjur (Gen) INSTANT REC!!! I could not stop reading once I started. I loved the plot, the character voices, and this was bittersweet in a way but the ending worked for me. wonderful storytelling!


Dark Shadows

Faith in the Atmosphere by lovesrain44 (Willie/Barnabas) This is the final story in the Splinter Verse and this entire series was rather captivating. I loved the character voices and I felt for Willie.


Supernatural

An Offering For Sin by varkelton (sam/dean) INSTANT REC!!! This was incredibly hot and hit just about all of my kinks. I loved plot, the character voices, and it goes without saying I loved the sex in the story.


Merlin

you must remember this by seperis (Merlin/Arthur) I really loved the imagery and this was interesting.




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User: mirabile_dictu date: 2009-11-29 20:13 subject: Twenty-ninth day of writing security: Public

xposted to IJ and LJ

Word count: 1,327. Total so far: almost 22,800 words. ACK.

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User: ds_weekly (posted by aingeal8c) date: 2009-11-29 19:14 subject: Week 48 22nd - 29th November 2009 security: Public tags week 48 2009

Here is this weeks digest. Anything to add or correct please let me know. This digest is crossposted to LJ, IJ and DW.

Community News:
lipstickcat had several Due South/Canada fandom related items for sale in this post.
film_by_fandom is a multifandom comm where films are prompts. More information about the current Action/Comedy round Here.
The author profiles over at ds_profiles this week are: Spuffyduds, AC Chapin, pearl_o, A. Kite, arrow00.

Challenges:
ds_flashfiction have wrapped up The Interruptions Challenge. All entries can be found Here.
ds_flashfiction have begun The Butter Challenge
ds_snippets have wrapped up Challenge 137
ds_snippets are wrapping up Challenge 138

Fanfiction:
china_shop wrote Pornography (Fraser/Kowalski, NC-17) - note outside LJ link.
tres_mechante wrote Through the Looking Glass (Fraser/Kowalski, Kowalski/human!Diefenbaker, NC-17)
prudence_dearly wrote Do Not Make a Plan (Kowalski/Vecchio)

Fanfiction from ds_snippets:
Challenge 138
exbex wrote Regret (Vecchio, G)
exbex wrote sappy holiday OT3ness (Fraser/Kowalski/Vecchio, PG)
luzula wrote Wrestling (Fraser/Kowalski pre-slash, PG-13)

Fanart/icons etc:
j_s_cavalcante created Fraser is listening to Angsting!Ray. (G) - flocked post. Ask for access.

Recs:
Note ALL recs link to the rec post.

luzula is reccing podfic at ds_recsredux. This week she recced:
Two long, classic due South podfics

The reccer for dS over at crack_van in November is kari_hermione
kari_hermione recced: Five Things Diefenbaker Likes About Ray Kowalski by Janne"> (Fraser/Kowalski, PG)

Requests from ds_ficfinders:
Found: by Sepris

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User: icarusancalion date: 2009-11-29 13:03 subject: SGA Santa security: Public mood swing anxious tags sga

Uh-oh.

My requestee for sga_santa requested a rarepair which I couldn't resist.

And it's ending up with a totally different rarepair in the final scene. Shit.

Any volunteers for a beta? I've been chopping at this fic rather ruthlessly trying to solve quite a few problems.

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User: mirabile_dictu date: 2009-11-29 07:05 subject: Happy birthday, Lady of Asheru! security: Public

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It's already afternoon in England, so let me post before it's too late: happy birthday to my beloved Lady of Asheru! I wish she didn't live so far away.

Every year for her birthday I write a little story, so here is this year's. It is not the most appropriate of birthday gifts, I don't think -- for one thing, it's set after a favorite character has died. Great. My dear non-LJ friend Linda has given me a new rule: no deaths when writing stories for gifts. I will try to keep that in mind in the future.

But this year, this is what it is.

Title: Survived Their Fall
Fandom: SG1 and SGA
Pairing: Daniel Jackson/Jack O'Neill; Rodney McKay/John Sheppard
Rating: PG-13
Word Count: 2,525
Summary: Daniel spent a lot of time not looking at what he was packing because every object and every book reminded him of Jack and their years together.

A/N: For the Lady of Asheru on the occasion of her birthday.

Warning: Major character death.

( Survived Their Fall )

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User: mirabile_dictu date: 2009-11-28 22:11 subject: Twenty-eighth day of writing security: Public

xposted to IJ and LJ

Word count: 3,466. Thank god, only two more days in this month and I can knock off this word count shit. Although I must say, feeling obligated to post did keep my word count up, and I'm very proud of what I did today.

I got another email address, mirabile1dictu@gmail.com (note the "1" in the middle of Mirabile Dictu; that's because someone else has mirabile.dictu and mirabiledictu. Goddammit), so I could have a Google Wave account. Now, what does one do with a Google Wave account? Thanks to Winkingstar, I know a tiny bit more than I did; she linked to this two minute video explanation. Wave as a "hosted conversation" -- see, that makes sense to me.

I currently have 86 g-wave invitations, so if you want one, please email me: mirabile1dictu@gmail.com.

( Cool links: )

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User: metafandom (posted by p_zeitgeist) date: 2009-11-28 02:24 subject: Friday, November 27, 2009 security: Public

• recessional: Plagues in your Postapocalypse: - Disease is a huge part of any landscape except maybe our own. Disease in a landscape that used to look like our own should be even more shocking. -
  
  (tags: writing)


• thelana: The Genius Wranglers: A Rant - Personally, I think the appeal of those relationships has very little to do with people yearning for an old fashioned woman supporting superior (genius!) man dynamic or people getting stuck on some Oedipal trope. I think it comes more from the side effects of the trope. The typical Wrangler personality, especially of this chiding mother sorts means that they are being cast with motivations other than just looking for hotness. -
  
  (tags: trope media)

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User: mirabile_dictu date: 2009-11-27 22:04 subject: Twenty-seventh day of writing security: Public

xposted to IJ and LJ

Word count: 2,602.

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User: icarusancalion date: 2009-11-28 00:00 subject: ... with cheesecake. security: Public mood swing happy tags home, sga

I love sga_storyfinders.

And cheesecake.

And look, I have both.

In fact, every sentence ends better if you add "... with cheesecake."

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User: announcements (posted by squeaky) date: 2009-11-28 00:18 subject: Sales Over security: Public

All of the IJ holiday sales have ended and prices are back to normal. We will be putting Permanently Insane accounts on sale for their regular price before Christmas.

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User: telesilla date: 2009-11-27 20:42 subject: body chemistry for the lose... security: Public

So yeah, because my sleep schedule's been so fucked up, I haven't been taking my Wellbutrin. I really really need to remember that it's not optional.

Dinner tonight, which should have been dinner last night, was good, but it was only half of what I meant to serve and the meat was just a little too pink even though my meat thermometer said it was a lot more done that it turned out to be.* I really didn't feel the cooking vibe so we had the caramelized butternut squash/sweet potato dish (which was very good) and lamb, which was very good even if it was a little pink. We'll have greens and mashed potatoes tomorrow.

Things would have been a lot smoother if I'd been taking my meds, as it was I stressed this one waaaaaay too much.



*Um, hi...I'm really not in the mood for recommendations or helpful hints or solutions or whatever here.

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User: ratcreature date: 2009-11-28 03:05 subject: sort of a kink poll... security: Public tags fanfic, fanfic: meta, meta, poll, questions

I've been reading a slash story in which a heated argument between the couple (who are also friends) results in punch being thrown, and then the one punched actually finds the aggression a turn on and it goes on to sex. Somehow this combination of sex and violence doesn't work for me at all, not even in fiction, where I'm not averse to combinations of sex and violence.

Like, I can go along fine if the aggression is against some kind of third party, and one character is turned on by the other being violent, or they are turned on mutually, say if they are both in a barfight or even slaughter others. I can also go along with non-con that involves violence with the victim not being turned on, but I as a reader like it. But if the violence is between the couple (and they are supposed to like each other), uncontrolled violence segueing into sex (rather than say rough sex that is mutually agreed upon) is squicky for me, more so if the violence is not mutual (the latter would be more fighting leading to fucking in some kind of hate sex, which I also don't like, but it is not as bad as one sided violence).

Most often this is shown from the POV of the character the aggression is turned upon rather than the violent character being turned on by the escalation, i.e. A hits B, usually after some provocation, then B somehow finds that aggression/violence (or sometimes the loss of control) hot, and sex follows. I have to admit that I find this particular combination of sex and violence to be surprising as a kink, and it always startles me, but I see this every now and then, and I'm wondering whether it is something that many people like in sex scenes.

So, a poll:

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User: telesilla date: 2009-11-27 16:26 subject: so much for Thanksgiving on the right day security: Public

Right now I'm mostly thankful that I no longer have a migraine.

There's food in the oven and I'll do a much longer post about it all later.

Hope those of you who celebrate (and those how don't) had a great day!

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